Monday, October 15, 2012

MY DEAR LALLY




I am writing this with a great sense of sorrow and a heavy heart. Lalit Angural (Lally), a hale and hearty young man, passed away suddenly in the forenoon of October 6, 2012 with a silent heart stroke. He was to complete 24 on October 9. Lally’s sister Sulekha is our daughter in law, wife of my son Rupesh. But the parents of Lally, Madan and Nimmo, are our family friends of long standing. Madan is a business partner of my brother Kishan and Lally was a business associate of Kishan’s son Brijesh (Bablu).  Lally, as such, was a part of our own family in all respects. Even after, our family friendship turned into close relationship, Lally continued to call us Tayaji and Taiji. The untimely and sudden death of Lally cut down a promising and budding businessman, a great hope and stay of a struggling family to find their feet in the society. The cruel hands of death have snatched that dream and hope. I was in Gurgaon for a few days to be with Sulekha and our little granddaughter Suhani (3 yrs.) as Rupesh was away to Russia on a business trip when the sad news reached us. I brought Sulekha and Suhani to Jalandhar in the night of October 6 itself. It was one of the difficult journeys of my life, Sulekha weeping and crying and Suhani getting curious and sad throughout.

On reaching Madan’s home, the scenario was totally unbearable. The dead body of Lally was kept in a refrigerated box for cremation the next day, October 7. It looked as if he was in a deep sleep. For me it was a different experience. By the quirk of fate or by chance, I did not see death/dead body even at this ripe age of 60 plus. My grandfather died of heart attack in 1972. I could not reach Jalandhar from Delhi before the cremation. My father in law died in 1979. We were in Beijing (China) and could not reach for the rituals. My father died in 1986 after a long illness and we remained with him for a month or so a months before his death. But we could not reach home at the time of death. We were in Kandy (Sri Lanka). My grandmother died in 1990. Again we could reach Jalandhar only after the cremation. My mother died in 2006 after a prolonged illness. We were in Prague (Czech Republic). We could not reach. The reasons for this unintentional absence were partly exigencies of service and partly my non-insistence to wait for me for the rituals. As a simple and ordinary human being, I have tried and lived life as it came. My brothers have been very supportive and respectful. So far so good.

Lally’s death was a shattering experience. I find it difficult to forget his lovely face and charming behavior. Lally was good at studies. After BBA, he was doing MBA from Sikkim Manipal University. He was fully and successfully engaged in a good export business as a self made person. He was a man in a hurry to do many things quickly. He was a social and amicable personality who was engaged in social and extra-curricular activities. It will be difficult to fill the void created by Lally’s sudden departure in the years to come.  May God grant peace to the departed soul of Lally.

 

13 comments:

  1. God Bless His Soul and i pray always with our bro's soul.

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    1. thanks bablu. i feel your pain. time is a great healer. god be with you.

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    2. yes Taya g no doubt "time is grat healer"!!!But i miss him because he is very close to our heart.

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    3. i agree. god will give you strength to live ith the situation. love.

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  2. It is very sad. God bless his soul. No child should depart before his/her parents. It is the greatest sorrow. I have gone through it. My own brother, who was very brave and served in Kashmir as a commandant died in an accident in his prime. If alive, he would have been at the position of at least an IG in BSF today, and he also served as Anti-Hijacking expert for NSG (National Security Guard), India. I saw how my parents and our whole family have been suffering his loss.

    Young age of 24 is nothing. It is also an eyeopener for us to be on lookout for our own health. "Jinnah rahan di saar na janni, unah rahana tae menu chalna peya". May Guru Ravidass Ji bless his soul and give you strength top bear this unbearable loss.

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    1. thanks dear. we share your feelings. god bless you.

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  3. Lalit was an exceptional and gifted human being. He never lost his capacity to smile and laugh.
    My dear brother Brijesh, The thinker dies, but his thoughts are beyond the reach of destruction. Men are mortal, but ideas are immortal. You were very close friend of Lalit and both of you were working hard for a goal 'hikco'. Now u have to fulfill dreams of your best friend.May Guru ji grant you power!
    May God grant his family strength to face these painful and sorrow moments.
    May his soul rest in peace!
    Lalit still live in our heart.
    "The ones we love live forever in the heart ".

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    1. thanks mohit. you are right. lally will remain with us for ever. love.

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    2. yes Mohit Now dream of Lalit is my dream.I will do my best to fullfil the dream of Lalit.

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  4. Its very difficult to forgot lalit. i always see him active and excited.i have written few lines..
    ਬੂਹੇ ਵਿਚ ਖਲੋਕੇ ਮਾਂ ਹੁਣ ਕਿਸਨੁ ਤਕੁਗੀ
    ਲੱਲੀ ਤੇਰੀ ਯਾਦ ਅਸਾ ਨੂ ਕਿਦਾ ਭੂਲੇਗੀ
    ਮਾਂ ਬਾਪ ਨੇ ਚਾਵਾ ਦੇ ਨਾਲ ਮੰਗੇਯਾ ਤੇਨੁ ਸੀ
    ਪਤਾ ਨਹੀ ਇਹਨਾ ਚਾਵਾ ਦੀ ਇੰਜ ਅਰਥੀ ਓਥੇਗੀ
    ਲੱਲੀ ਤੇਰੀ ਯਾਦ ਅਸਾ ਨੂ ਕਿਦਾ ਭੂਲੇਗੀ
    ਸੋਚ ਤੇਰੀ ਨੇ ਸਾਨੂ ਉਚੇ ਖਵਾਬ ਦਿਖਾਏ ਸੀ
    ਜਿਤੀ ਕੀਉ ਹਰ ਬਾਜ਼ੀ ਯੇਹ ਮੌਤ ਤੋ ਬਾਜ਼ੀ ਹਰਨੀ ਸੀ
    ਮਾਂ ਬਾਪ ਭੇਣ ਭਰਾਵਾ ਨੂ ਕਮੀ ਹਰ ਪਾਲ ਖਲੇਗੀ
    ਲੱਲੀ ਤੇਰੀ ਯਾਦ ਅਸਾ ਨੂ ਕਿਦਾ ਭੂਲੇਗੀ

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  5. Very very sad and tragic. My deep condolences with you and Sulekha and her parents. I am 26 myself feeling some pain in my chest for quite sometime now (4 months). My left hand is always in pain. Will consult doctor soon.

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    1. thanks om pratap. please consult the doctor. god bless you.

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